Sunday, September 28, 2008

It's Not Easy Being Green

Both of my parents have had open heart surgery. My mom has had cancer twice. My brother has MS. Needless to say, I am high on the list for some health problem.
The last couple of years, John and I have been taking some very proactive steps to make our lives healthier.
All along, John has been a BIG advocate for getting rid of chemicals from our home and our lives. I grew up using every chemical cleaner known to man. I thought, "If they sell it, it must be ok." I finally have seen the light. Now, if you check out out home and the way we live, there's still a lot that's not completely green, but (here's the difference) we are making wiser choices.

Here's some of the things we do:

1. We raise and eat our own meat. We know what the cows have been fed (no growth hormones, good feed, essentially organic) and we know how long ago that cow was breathing. We also only eat meat about once a week. One night is fish night (John HATES it, but eats it) and I do chicken a night or two. I would love to get our own chicken, but that's another task for another day. We also eat our own eggs, well, when the chickens are laying. I often have to buy eggs at the store, and try to find the most "organic" they have.

2. We have tried to get away from as many extra chemicals as possible. When buying laundry detergent, I always buy "free and clear, no perfume, no phosphates". Instead of cleaning chemicals, I use 50/50 water/vinegar for everyday cleaning (grandma's solution was the best!) and I use denture tablets to clean the toilet (drop a tab or two in, wait 15 minutes and then scrub). We do not use weed killer. Ok, if you've seen my yard you can tell that's obvious, but that has more to do with not having time than chemicals. Did you know that if you spray plain white vinegar on weeds and let the sun bake them, they will die. I LOVE white vinegar...

3. We try to open the windows for at least 5 minutes a day to get fresh air in and toxic air out, and I went out and bought a bunch of houseplants. If I had it to do over again, I would not put in carpet (very toxic as it breaks down) but would do all hardwood floors. Of course, on a cold winter morning, it is so nice to step onto a warm floor...wait a minute, we live in an old farmhouse, our floor is cold no matter what!

4. Most of the food I make is from scratch. The majority of my grocery shopping is for staples, not prepared foods. That's the way my mom cooked and that's the way I cook. Now, if you look in my cupboards, you will see prepared things, but we try to balance out what we have. For instance, I (try) to only have one goody in the house at a time (if it's here, we eat it). We will have either chips or Cheetos (kids' fav) or cookies.

5. We try to make healthy eating a daily thing. My kids drink only milk (BGH free) or water (from our well, tested yearly). They've only ever eaten brown bread and Multi-Grain Cheerios. We always thought, why start them out on something we don't want to continue with?

6. Because of Rachel's Spina Bifida, she is more susceptible to a latex allergy, so we have been latex free for her. Her pacifiers and bottles are silicone, but we've also gone BPA free. We have tried to get rid of plastics # 3, 6 and 7 (look on the bottom of your plastic for the number in the middle of the recycle triangle). I am also attempting to make her baby food.

7. I bought most of my fruits and veggies from a local stand this summer. Because of the baby, I didn't do a garden this year, but am already planning next years'. My dad is going to help me set it up, and then I hope to freeze most of my goods. (I would love to learn how to can, but I am a hands-on learner. Reading about how to can doesn't cut it with me, and because it's food, I am too scared to try it myself.)

8. We don't go automatically to medicines for what ailes us. For runny noses, we use plain nasal saline spray and an aspirator. We take ibuprofen or acetemediphen after a day or two of the pain. I often have not filled the doctor's prescription of antibiotics, waiting for the sickness (often an ear ache) to run it's course.
**** This is part of the reason why I feel so responsible for Rachel's birth defect. I had Strep Throat and a high fever, but I waited a few days to take anything to bring my fever down, waiting for it to run it's course. Did my not taking Tylenol cause her Spina Bifida?

9. We don't wear shoes in the house (umm, bring animal feeces and toxins into where my baby lays on the floor? No thanks!) and we don't keep animals in the house. I am NOT an animal person, so it's not a big deal to me.

So, these are just a few of the things we are doing to make our lives healthier. There are so many more changes we need to make, but, for us, it's about changes that work for us. Yes, you will see me in the drive thru line, but not every day, and when we do eat at home, it's fairly healthy.

There's a commercial on TV for Lysol or some other chemical cleaner talking about how you need to clean every surface so as not to expose your kids to the germs that cause a cold. I looked at John and said, "Hmmm, would I rather my kids get a cold now, or cancer twenty years from now by being exposed to these chemicals?" I know what my answer is.

I would love to know what kinds of things you do...

Thursday, September 25, 2008

The Past

I have been scanning pictures to post on Facebook...pictures of the past. I often tell John that I feel like a girl with no past, since he has no connection to anything from my past, and since we've been together, I have very little connection with my past (working at the WLD Ranch, youth group, my time in Africa, college years). I really had a great experience as a teen, so much fun!

Here's some fun pictures for you to laugh at...just remember, it was all SO COOL at the time, and I guarentee that the way we look now will be funny someday!
(and, yep, I am in every one of those pictures...can you find me? Here's a little hint, look for the girl with the thick eyebrows...THANK GOD I learned how to pluck! and, between John and I, I can't imagine what kind of eyebrows our kids will have!) )

Monday, September 22, 2008

Another Brother's Wedding

My younger brother Andy got married this past weekend in Greensboro, NC. It was at a beautiful castle, McCullough Castle. The kids traveled really well and, overall, did very well. Rachel didn't sleep well the first night, but we were able to get her situated just right for the others. The kids LOVED the pool.
Here are a few pictures...

Sunday, September 21, 2008

Home

We're home, we had a GREAT time, the wedding was beautiful, will posts pictures once I'm unpacked, EXHAUSTED! (It's 6:23 and the kids are already in bed for the night!)

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

The Crock of DEATH!!!


They say "if you can build a better mousetrap...". Well, I've found one!
First of all, we have mice. There. I've said it. Please don't let that be the reason not to come to my house. I live in a 150 year old farmhouse. There are lots of ways for mice to get in. Walking in the front door for one. (No, I am not kidding.)
We have stock in mousetraps and regularly set them whether we see the evidence or not. Sometimes the evidence is obvious (a huge hole chewed through my sweater); sometimes it is not.
About a year ago I had a crock sitting in my dining room, just for decoration. All of a sudden it started to smell. I thought that perhaps the kids (namely JOSH!) had dropped some food down into it. We've found various things in there before, so food wouldn't surprize me. The smell just got worse and worse until John took the crock outside and dumped the contents. Besides finding dirt (from my houseplant), toy forks and spoons, and about 147 pens, there was also a petrified mouse in there. Seems that the unlucky soul had jumped into the crock and had not been able to get back out. It had been the end of him.
Well, my beautiful (stinky) antique decorative crock sat up a the barn for approximately 9 months until my husband found the time to clean it out for me. (I DON'T do mice! He's the "man" after all!) Just a month or so ago, the crock made it's way back into the house, but only into the back room (what I like to refer to as my husband's "Junk Room"). I happened to go out there a few days ago, and to what do my lingering nostrils appear? But a stinky mouse flesh (and eight tiny reindeer....not really the reindeer part.) Seems as if another poor mouse-soul just couldn't stand the pressures of everyday mouse-life and jumped to his death. RIP little mousey!
PS. You know, I read that a mouse can jump up to a foot off the ground and fit through an opening as small as the width of a pencil. EWWWW!!!
PSSS. The kids have suggested that if the crock doesn't work, we could get a snake and let him roam our house eating mice. But only if it's a nice snake. DOUBLE EWWWWW!!!!

Monday, September 15, 2008

Wise Choices

John and I have gone back and forth and back and forth as to whether we are "done" having kids. We had always said we'd like five, and, well, we are at four.
At the time of my C-section, we decided against having a tubal ligation, feeling that there were just too many other stressors in our life at the time. The look on the assistant doctor's face when I told him... "So, you WANT to have more kids?", he said to me. "Well, no, not necessarily. We're just not ready to make a permanent decision right now."
See, we were told from almost the day we found out Rachel had Spina Bifida (actually, it WAS the day we found out) that we could still have more kids with only about a 4% chance of another case of SB. At the time, we just wanted to get through this situation.
We have thought and discussed and prayed about it, and I think we've decided, "we're done!".
First of all, no matter how I try to fool myself, I am getting older and each pregnancy is getting harder and harder. I have a regular standing appointment with my chiropractor every 4 to 6 weeks for a bad hip, and pregnancy does nothing to help that. Besides that fact that with each pregnancy, there are others running around that I can't keep up with.
Secondly, both John and I were scared to death by the doctor before he took me in to have my 4th C-section. I had to sign all kinds of consents and were told ALL of the risk factors with a repeat C. The risk of me bleeding out, needing a hysterectomy, a blood transfusion or dying were much higher. Yah, I don't need that kind of stress in my life. Also, while lying there on the operating table, having the doctor tell you that now he needed to "put your uterus and bladder back inside of you..." 'Nough said.
Thirdly, though everything turned out so much better than we could have ever imagined with Rachel, I am going to be honest with you, a HUGE part of me is afraid to risk it again. I don't think I could go through that kind of situation again. I would go to every sonogram and doctor's appointment with fear.
Fourthly, the OCD in me is very happy with the little pattern we have going: boy, girl, boy, girl.
And lastly, we'd have to get a new vehicle to fit us all and redo something about our house and the sleeping arrangements. I know, you may think that this is a shallow and insignificant reason to not have another child, but I told you, I am being honest here and it is part of the equation.

John and I did a Bible Study called "The Best Question Ever". In it, Andy Stanley says that the question to ask isn't "Is it good or bad, right verses wrong?" but the question to ask is "Is it WISE?" Since that study, we have tried to apply that question to the entirety of our lives. And, based on that question, the wise thing for us to do is to be content and complete with our family of six! (of course, you never know what God may have in store around the corner!)

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Little Ham

Josh is my ham...he likes to laugh and he like others to laugh too. Take a look at what I mean...









Saturday, September 13, 2008

Desert Song

Maybe you've listened to the songs that I have set for this webpage. Maybe you don't care for them. (You know, you can scroll down to the bottom of the page and turn off the player.)
Would you do me a favor, just once? Would you listen to the first song I have set? (Come one, it's only 4 min 10 sec.) There is a lot of significance in that song for me. To help you, I've included the words, well, at least what I can make out of the words.
Let me just make it clear one more time, I HAVE A RESON TO SING!!!!

"Desert Song" by Hillsong off the cd "This Is Our God"

This is my prayer in the desert when all that’s within me feels dry
This is my prayer and the hunger in me, my God is the God who provides
And this is my prayer in the fire, in weakness or trial or pain
There is a faith proved of more worth than gold, so refine me Lord through the flame

I will bring praise, I will bring praise
No weapon formed against me shall remain,
I will rejoice, I will declare, God is my victory and he is here

And this is my prayer in the battle when triumph is still on its way
I am conqueror included with Christ, so firm on his promise I’ll stand

All of my life, in every season, you are still God
I have a reason to sing, I have a reason to worship


And this is my prayer in the harvest, where favor and providence flow
I have been filled to be emptied again
The seed I've recieved I must sow

Thursday, September 11, 2008

I Am Here...

ok, ok, ok , I know it's been a long time since I've posted anything "substantial" (what, you didn't get deep meaning from the Spider Family?). It's been so long, my "automatic sign-in" was forgotten and I forgot my password. (Shhh...I have about three or four combinations I use and just kept trying those until something worked.)
Anyway, I have a good excuse for not enlightening you with something quite profound and inspiring. I just don't have time. I know, we all have that excuse, and I really thought I could lay claim to that before, but now, my life is in super-moving mode and if one piece of the puzzle is out-of-joint, everything falls apart. Well, not really, but the OCD in me feels that it would.
My other excuse is that I cannot get computer time. I have to kick my kids off the computer just to check my email and they are FOUR and FIVE!!! (Oh, curse those http://www.pbskids.org/)
So, IF I can formulate a coherent thought and IF I can find time to pen that thought, I will share it.
Sorry, I have to go now, my four year old is coming down the stairs with her pants around her knees telling my her "butts" is sore. That's about as "inspired" as it gets right now. (Just keeping it real...) I think she's trying to distract me to get me off the computer!

Friday, September 5, 2008

The Spider Family

Spider-Daddy
Spider-Mommy

Spider-Biggs



Spider-Keky

Spider-Boy

Spider-Baby!







Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Keky's First Day

Today was Keky's (Rebekah) first day of preschool.
Eating a good breakfast of oatmeal.


Doing her hair. (I am SURE I have the exact same picture of my mom doing my hair.)



Posing with the siblings.


Ok, I know I am quite biased, but do I have the most beautiful daughters or what??